Exploring the True Meaning of Chanukah

Why does Chanukah have a basic way to light and then a mehadrin way, something we find nowhere else in halacha? Why does the Gemara celebrate only the oil and not the war? And in Parshas Behaaloscha, why does the Ramban ask what was so special about the Menorah that it consoled Aharon? One idea answers all three, and it shapes how we light. It starts at home: a wife sets out a fine dinner for her husband, and then adds one small thing she did not have to.