You Can Join the Royal Family

The Kuzari is asked to describe a chassid, and his answer sounds like a description of a man who rules a country. That seems backwards, and it sits right under Vayigash. As Yehuda steps up to face Yosef, the Midrash has the brothers stand aside: let the kings fight it out. Yosef rules Mitzrayim, but why is Yehuda, who had fallen in their eyes, called a king? And why would owning up about Tamar earn him malchus?A halacha about eating liver comes into it, and so does the Shabbos Rav Chaim Kanievsky lost his wife. All of it asks who is really in charge of you.